A Letter to FOP

The Mighty has daily posts dedicated to “finding strength, joy, and beauty in disability.” I’ve followed them for a while now and am always touched by the inspiring stories written with such grace, strength, and hope. For the entire month of March, they have asked their readers to write a letter to a diagnosis that has affected them or their family. Here’s mine.


Dear FOP,

I never imagined that I would be writing a letter to you, the diagnosis that forever changed my life and that of my family’s. You may prefer to be called by your full name, Fibrodysplasia Ossificans Progressiva, but I won’t give you that satisfaction this time. I’m tired of having to explain what each word means before even beginning to say anything else.

TheMighty-blogpost031815-2I have come to know you over the past 16+ years but I’m not sure that I like you very much. You’ve caused a lot of emotional distress, heartache, and fear in my family members’ lives and I can’t forgive you for that. You have delayed countless milestones for me and have created never-ending obstacles and setbacks in my everyday life. Everything is ten times more difficult than it should be because you always seem to be dragging me down.

I’m thankful to have had a happy childhood despite your cruel intentions, but that was only because I was sheltered from the severity of what you were truly doing to me. I was oblivious to the reality of your ways. My body drastically changed every few years as I was growing up. I progressively became more and more immobilized, unable to partake in the same activities as my friends. I dealt with, and still experience, severe pain and discomfort during spontaneous flare-ups (my muscles, tendons, and other soft tissues are turning to bone). Because of you, my body is noticeably different and I’ve struggled with many insecurities and self loathing. You made me feel like an outcast: unheard and unimportant.

I’m nearly 22 now, which is roughly half of the average lifespan of someone who is affected by you. I know I’ve missed out on a lot of opportunities because of you. I might not be able to experience all that I want to, but I’m working on not being bitter about it and still doing my best to reach my goals and dreams. Sure, I have my bad days when I wish you would just leave me alone (spoiler alert: you never fully do). And yes, I’m sometimes envious of my friends because they can do things that are physically impossible for me. But I’ve accepted you as a part of me, even though I do not particularly care for you.

I’m acknowledging you and continuing to live.

Thanks to you, I have found three incredible and irreplaceable communities of people who are going through the same or similar challenges as me. They have become life-long friends that I probably wouldn’t have met otherwise. Even if I had, I wouldn’t have been able to relate to them as much as I do. I have learned that I’m not alone in my journey and that there is always hope, no matter how dark or dismal the circumstances may be. I no longer view you as a burden, in any sense of the word, but more of a blessing in disguise.

You’ve shown me that I have more strength and courage within myself than I could ever imagine. You’ve helped me to not take anything, even the smallest or silliest of things, for granted because it could be gone the next day. Living with you has also taught me that people with disabilities or impairments are equal to the able-bodied… they just do things a little differently.

You have not defined me, and you never will.

Thank you for changing my life.

Sincerely,

Jasmin


Update, 2016: I recently recorded myself reading this blog post for a Rare Disease Day event!
https://soundcloud.com/jasminfloyd/a-letter-to-fop/s-7b5xL


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Al Hood
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Good morning, Jasmin. Your heartfelt letter is bittersweet, yet poignant. I see in it the disappointment and sadness, but also the beauty of your will and your fortitude. I wonder if I could ever have strength like that. I doubt it. I was so glad to hear your recording. It made me feel like I was in the room with you. Thank you so much for sharing yet again. You are truly a special soul. P.S. If I may say, you have the most sparkling blue eyes I’ve ever seen. No doubt you light up the room with them as… Read more »
victoria mandracken
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Great letter! Can we publish it in the next FOP Connection (JUNE) along with your thoughts about our FOP Community?

Noodle
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Jasmin, you are a beautiful, articulate truth-teller. Xoxoxox

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